"Being sexy and gorgeous is all about attitude, not body type. It's just a state of mind."
The above words better reflect the life of the plus-size author Lindy West. She's achieved a lot in her career and within her success story faced a lot of discrimination because of her body.
She even considered in past that she will never marry anyone but as fate would have it she successfully battled fatphobia and is living a wonderful married life with her husband Ahamefule J. Oluo.
The couple simply proved it's only love and affection that matters to make the relationship stronger.
Lindy West's Married Life With Musician Ahamefule J. Oluo
Lindy West, the Seattle-based writer and her boyfriend Ahamefule J. Oluo. got engaged on her birthday. It was an unforgettable surprise for her as their friends, family, and kids attended the day.
Some months later, the couple tied the knot on 11 July 2015. West walked the aisle at her favorite place with the song Someone to Watch Over Me playing on the piano.
Oluo looked dapper wearing a blue plaid suit. While West, wore a strapless, skin-tight mermaid gown exploding with silk flowers designed by Mark Mitchell.
West is now living a happy married life with her husband now but things weren't always the same. She was literally very tired of people asking her about her fat body.
She wrote in one of her creation called Why I can't wait to be a fat bride,
'I grew up assuming that I would never get married, because marriage was for thin women, the kind of women who deserved to be collected. How could I be a bride when I was already what men most feared their wives would become? I was the mise en place for a midlife crisis. I was the Ghost of Adultery Future. At least, that’s what I’d been taught. And that’s why I can’t goddamn wait to be a fat bride.'
"I have never in my life been fatter than I was on my wedding day, I have never shown my body in such an uncompromising way, and I have never felt more at home in that body. I was fully myself, and I was happy. We are happy. This life is yours, fat girls. Eat it up."
"My husband isn’t fat, and that enrages people."
She strongly offends on the idea that her husband's only with her because he has 'a fetish for larger bodies'.
The couple is soon to celebrate their 3 years marriage anniversary. Let's wish them all the very best in their future endeavors.
Lindy West: Discriminations She Faced As A Fat Woman
West has always been against people who overreact on her size. She was once a staff writer for Jezebel and used to write on racism, sexism, and fat shaming.
She once said,
"I’m not going to answer the same question about being fat anymore."
She wrote a book about fatness called Shrill. She traveled around the world on tour with her book.
Here is Lindy West talking on feminism, fat, and fighting trolls:
She mentioned that she was shattered many times in her dating life all because of her fat body. During an interview with the Pool, she said,
"It’s not that I’m not attracted to fat men – I’ve dated men of all sizes – but the assumption that fat people should only be with fat people is dehumanizing. It assumes that we are nothing but bodies. Well, sorry. I am a human and I would like to be with the human I like the best. He happens to not be fat, but if he were, I would love him just the same. Isn’t that the whole point? To be more than just bodies?"
She even mentioned that she dated men in private but they often refused to be seen with her in public.
"They told me, explicitly, that we had no serious future because they were afraid their friends would laugh at them. I’ve been eagerly approached by men who clearly saw me as nothing but an arousingly taboo body type, which I find equally demoralizing (other fat people don’t mind, I know – that’s cool, too). I just wanted to be a person, and, if I was lucky, to fall in love with a person – neither in spite of my body nor because of it. Once I finally did, I wanted to crystallise that, make it solid, and broadcast it where younger versions of myself could find it"
Well, beyond all the criticisms West is living a happy married life with her musician and writer husband.
Lindy West: Quick Facts
- Born on 9 March 1982 in Seattle, Washington.
- Her birth sign is Pisces.
- She is the author of the essay collection Shrill: Notes from a Loud Woman.
- She won the Women's Media Center Social Media Award in 2013.
- She co-founded a social media campaign on Twitter named 'Shout Your Abortion' in September 2015.
- She received The Stranger's Genius Award in Literature for her creation 'Shrill: Notes from a Loud Woman'.
- Her works have been published in the New York Daily Times, Vuiture.com, Cracked.com, The Guardian, and The Daily Telegraph.